Finding your self-worth is Key!

Self-respect forms the foundation of all the decisions you’ll ever make, how you treat yourself, and how you allow others to treat you. But is self-respect crucial for happiness?

You may think the key to happiness lies in health, wealth, and the success of your personal relationships. And all these things are key elements on the path to greater fulfillment.

But what many fail to recognize is that self-respect is crucial for happiness.

Self-respect means having Confidence in yourself and behaving with grace, honor, and dignity.

How Do You Show Self Respect?

1. Respect your beliefs and values.

Determine which of your beliefs and values reflect your authentic self. Stick to them. It’s yours, and you don’t need to change them for anyone. Under no circumstances should you change your values to suit someone else, as then you will let yourself down.

2. Respect your body.

It’s the only one you have. Take care of it and pamper yourself often. Live healthily and make exercise a lifestyle priority.

3. Respect your environment.

If you can’t take care of your home or car, you can’t take care of yourself. Clean up, de-clutter and surround yourself with beautiful things that are a reflection of your beauty and character.

4. Respect your interests.

Stop hiding your hobbies. Openly share your passions. There are plenty of people who will be interested in the real you.

5. Respect your word.

The most powerful tool to have is your word. So stay honest, form opinions, openly communicate how you really feel. You owe it to yourself to speak up.

6. Respect your boundaries.

People will value you less when they realize you’re spineless and easily manipulated. Understand your limits and learn to say no.

7. Respect your fears.

If you try to escape or run from your fears, they will gain power over you. Face your fears head on, and push through it.

8. Respect your failures.

They are an incredible feedback system. Stop seeing the negatives, turn them to your advantage, find legitimate value in them, and learn from them.

9. Respect your time.

Manage your time efficiently. Ask yourself what’s really important and balance your priorities.

10. Respect elderly advice.

Maya Angelou perfectly said: “Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” Find quotes from the elders to strengthen your character and thinking.

11. Respect your weaknesses.

Always see them as opportunities for growth and character-building.

12. Respect your goals and dreams.

Make a list of goals and start with the easiest one. Accomplish it, feel great that you did something for yourself. You’ll start to become confident in your abilities while simultaneously achieving what you want.

13. Respect your feelings.

Don’t stay in a job that makes you miserable. Don’t stay in a relationship that makes you sad. Don’t do something if it doesn’t feel right.

14. Respect your opportunities.

Say yes more often, it will give many new adventures and experiences and expand your comfort zone needed for growth.

15. Respect your needs first.

Find what will make you happy and don’t try to meet someone else’s needs before you took care of your own.

16. Respect and accept the retaliation.

The people who retaliate to your changes are always the people who were manipulating and using you in the first place, causing your low self-esteem and self-doubt. Shut them out of your life.

17. Respect your actions.

Action is the most powerful force for positive change. Even if it is not the right action, it still releases energy. Combine action with a positive attitude, regardless of your thoughts and feelings, as your actions and attitude will eventually impact your self-esteem.

18. Respect your accountability and responsibility.

Accountability and responsibility have been proven to accelerate action and success. Stand tall, and mighty forces will come to your aid.

19. Respect your thoughts.

Let your thoughts come and go, accept them, and then teach yourself to think positively through stillness or meditation. Change the way you think, talk, and behave toward yourself.

20. Respect the company of respectful people.

You are a combination of the people you spend the most time with. Respect yourself enough to make sure those people are positive influences. Actively seek out people who treat you the best way possible.

21. Respect your new confidence.

Do things that you’re good at. Accept compliments. The more you do things that build up your confidence, the more confident you’ll feel.

22. Respect honesty.

Honesty is the ultimate sign of respect. When you’re honest with yourself, you’ll see what’s good for you and what’s not.

23. Respect acceptance.

To respect something is to accept it. To respect yourself is to accept yourself. So it’s only until you truly love and respect yourself, accepting who and what you are, that you can start to believe you are worthy of another person’s love and respect.

When you lack self-respect and self-love

Before we explore why self-respect is crucial for happiness, we must first learn to recognize the red flags of low self-esteem.

1. You’re the doormat.

If you’re always the one that people ask things for without giving back anything in return, then you might need to build up your self-love. Same is true if you let people walk all over you, giving in to their wishes even though you hate it.

2. You lose yourself in a relationship.

You start a relationship and then, in the process, completely forget who and what you are. Decisions are made without your approval or notice, and you just plod along. Your forget your values and find yourself doing things you wouldn’t normally do, and which is totally against your true nature.

3. You are attention seeking.

You’re dying for validation which your low self-esteem cannot provide. Instead, you follow an image or symbol in order to gain attention and sometimes do stupid and erratic things, like making a fool of yourself at a party or the office.

4. You overindulge in bad habits.

You’re drinking, drugging, overeating, self-harming, punishing yourself, and your body. Food and drugs become ways to indulge and to forget.

5. You care for people who don’t care for you.

You’ll move mountains for someone who doesn’t even take notice of you. You keep making excuses for those who wouldn’t think twice to throw you under the bus.

6. You tolerate verbal, mental, or physical abuse.

You tolerate abusive partners and nasty people because you remember that one time they really treated you nicely, and you hang on to that feeling of belonging.

7. You are a puppet.

You meekly go along because you genuinely believe you have nothing of value to add to a conversation, relationship, or meeting because you think your opinions offer no value.

8. You became untidy and sloppy.

Your surroundings are in a mess. Your room is scattered with clothing and the sink in the kitchen is constantly full of dishes. You don’t’ care about cleaning up and just want to sleep all day.

Why Self-Respect Is Crucial For Happiness ?

So, we know how to recognize the red flags of low self esteem. But why is self-respect crucial for happiness?

1. Self-respect exhibits toughness and moral nerve.

You will display strong character with the willingness to accept responsibility for your own life, and you’ll fight for your Values and Believes, no matter what. This will make everyone else take note and admire your courage.

2. Self-respect makes you a better person and partner.

If you respect yourself, you believe you’re a worthy individual. And when you feel worthy, you believe you are deserving of love and respect. And when you command respect from others around you, they’d start to appreciate you more and take you more seriously.

3. No more need for comparisons.

When you love yourself, you feel good, you value your attributes, your talents, your skills, and your abilities. Which means that you never compare yourself to others, and you don’t feel jealous when others shine in their own way.

So, in the end, it boils down to this: accept yourself, respect your efforts, and you will, in the end, respect yourself.

And self-respect leads to self-discipline.

Now that’s real power.

Train your mind to see the Good in every situation and you will train yourself to make lemonade out of lemons.

What we do see depends mainly on what we look for…

One door is never closed that another is not opened up for us to live something better, the good in it all. Think back to some of the things you have encountered or situations that have presented themselves. Learning about perspective in life is key to being able to continue to grow and provide yourself with new challenges. Your thinking is established and set from everything that you have ever learned and will only change as needed when you decide to challenge your deepest ideals and beliefs.

Look at how you observe and decipher your situations. Are they good learning opportunities, or are they the worst thing that has ever happened to you? Can you look back and see where you thought something was horrendous, but now you can see how it all worked out for the greater good or for the better? There is beauty all around if you are willing to just look and see, and there are always blessings hidden in what we do, as long as our motives are righteous. So much of how you approach life depends on your attitude. If you are looking for the good in people, then that’s likely what you’ll find. If you approach things negatively, then that’s how you’ll see them. Do you look at the glass as being half-empty or half-full?

Remember to embrace the things and people around that will always help to keep you when life seems to be it’s hardest. Most of all, keep looking for new things to see, always because there is always something good that comes out of every learning opportunity. If you know you have been looking at the glass half empty, and you know you are not where you really want to be ~ Take your first step in always looking for the GOOD in every situation.

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To all the important women in my life.

Today is international women’s day and even if the day is not about “women” but more about equal rights for women, I am keen to seize this opportunity to thank you all of them for influencing my path over the last years.

The pillars of my life:

First and obvious, there is my mother. An incredible woman who has inspired me to be free, believe everything is possible and has helped me shape who I am today. I was a stubborn little girl with high aspirations and she took the time to develop my talents whilst giving me some life lessons. I could go on and on on how amazing my mum is — creative, caring, solution-finder, explorer, brave, elegant, passionate, learner, anglophile, generous and so much more — but I’ll stop there to make room for the other amazing women of my life.

The second amazing woman is my Grandmother. She is a combination of warmth, kindness laughter and love. From the minute I wake up to the minute I fall asleep she makes sure I have everything in hand. She does it all. She has tremendous faith in me and has just that special touch.

The next amazing woman in my life is my Eldest Sister. I admire her for managing having children as well as a wonderful career, for her amazing skill of bringing peace to any difficult situation or conflict and for her constant commitment in helping others in lots of different ways. 

Now this elder sister of mine, who she is the best. She is a true inspiration for me as she is going through the path of life just “before me” and share all her great tips with me which makes life much easier.  She will be the one to tell me “let’s order in, Netflix and Chill”. By making every moment fun, we use our unbelievable energy to shake the world and truly seize evey single day. My favourite one!

Here is a woman who demonstrates what an amazing blogger, model she is, teaching me the importance of resilience, hard work and recognition, developing my self-awareness by giving me numerous opportunities, coaching me, supporting me in tough times and believing in my abilities. – My Best Friend.

Finally, to the future woman of my life.
My youngest sister, to whom I commit to do my best to support her through life for her to feel that she has a choice in becoming whoever she wants to be, with the ultimate goal of being herself and being happy.

There are of course more women who supported me along the way and I know there will be many more.

Obviously, there are also many men who helped me becoming who I am today and to whom I am deeply grateful for.
But that will be for another day…

Even though I chose women’s day to thank all women who made a great impact on my life, for some of them I will be thankful throughout my life. I feel there is something to learn from every woman in fact from every human being.

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Happy Women’s Day 💗

Decision Making 📑

Lao Tzu’s philosophy advocates naturalness, spontaneity and freedom from social conventions and desires.

Each day we are faced with situations in life that require us to make choices. Some of these choices are easy, and at times, some of them can be difficult. Easy decisions consist of things like what clothing you should wear; most people choose what to wear based on the season of the year, the weather of the day, and where they might be going. Other easy decisions consist of things like what to eat, what movie to see, and what television programs to watch.

Decisions that seem to be the most difficult are those that require a deeper level of thought.

When decision making, there are many steps that can be taken; but when making good decisions there are really only five steps that need to be considered. These steps are as follows:
1) Identify your goal.
2) Gather information for weighing your options.
3) Consider your consequences.
4) Make your decision.
5) Evaluate your decision.

When there are more steps than we can count on one hand, most people tend to either forget a step, or misconstrue the order in which the steps must be taken. If you follow these five steps, and also remember the common pitfalls previously addressed, you will be well on your way to making good decisions for yourself.

If you have a few thoughts on some similar topics, I would love to hear. You can mention it below on my post or also tag me on your Instagram and Facebook posts.

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It’s the little things!

Right. Okay. Before we begin. Let’s start with everything ever.
Like the whole entire universe. The cosmos and all it comes with. In fact, no. Wait. Let’s encompass the whole damn multiverse, even. Just to be sure.

The big, large, gargantuan collection of all things that have ever been.
So there we have it: the exact opposite of a Little Thing.

Except, actually, it’s not. What you have here just so happens to be every Little Thing, all crammed together.
Small fragments, tiny pieces, all stitched into the entire fabric of the universe.

A lot of people out there — hell, all of us at some point — have been so focused on the bigger picture, so intent on reaching some kind of destination that it takes over us completely.
A goal. A dream.

Something that we have been aiming for ever since our hearts were handed our first bow and arrow and told to choose a target. Which is great. It’s brilliant to want something so wholeheartedly that it makes the air taste a little sweeter because suddenly, it’s infused with hope. With determination and giddiness. It becomes your life’s mission.

And yet, everything big is a collection of all things little.

Which is why we need to grab the Sky remote that has been wedged down the side of the sofa, and press pause for a moment. Allow ourselves time to notice them. To appreciate them. To live them and love them and become them.

Being aware of the little pockets of happiness that are dotted all throughout your day. Like savoring the taste of your favorite hot-chocolate. And having your dog snuggle up against you.

Because happiness itself is not just one big, overwhelming thing. It’s bits and bobs of the things you love, the people you love, your favorite foods and books and cities.
It’s the new season of your favorite show starting.

It’s grabbing a bite on the way home from a long day.
It’s your hair falling in waves across your shoulders after plaiting it overnight and it’s your old school friend being in town for the weekend.

It’s the little wins, like rewarding yourself for finally managing to fit in that morning run. Woohoo! Sounds horrendous to me, but well done you!

Give yourself as many of those little victories as you can. The little moments that evoke the large emotions, that leave the lasting and large marks on the universe.
If you let yourself live in the moment — which is actually all we have anyway — then you’ll see.

If you’re mindful, you will see that the Little Things are everywhere.
You’ll see them in things that once appeared daunting. Things that seemed too much, too sudden, too overwhelming, like big tasks that whir around in your head, too fast for you to get a hold of. But everything big can be divided into it’s littles. If you think about it, the Little Things are, in fact, every thing, really. You just need to let yourself see them. Embrace them. And live everything little thing that you can.
In the end, in the grand scheme of the grand universe, our lives are only little things themselves. Teeny, tiny and tremendous. But just because they’re small, just because they’re a story wedged into a corner of a phenomenally-large library, surrounded by infinite others, that doesn’t mean they’re not important.

In fact, it’s quite the opposite. Our lives are the ultimate Little Thing. Delicate. Brilliant. Abundant. And part of a weird and wonderful whole.

After all.
You can’t make the universe, without “U”.

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Mirror mirror on the wall, this is self-reflection.

Do you ever wake up, look in the mirror, and appreciate what you see?

I don’t do it enough.

It’s one of my 2021 goals to do it more often (not only for my confidence, but to appreciate myself). Mornings are when I take a moment to set my intentions for the day. I take it slow, do some things I love, and I think of a few things that i’m appreciative for.
if I start my day by picking apart things I don’t like about myself (physically or mentally), I know my day will be filled with negative energy and low confidence levels.
If I start it off in a mindfully positive way, it makes all the difference. I’m not telling you to look at yourself in the mirror every morning and say something super cheesy.

When we sit and reflect on what we have experienced in the past, our reaction to those events, we tend to understand how we have reacted to the situation good or bad and how it has effected the person you connect to. If a change is necessary in your actions by word or deed, it is important that you Rectify it for your own peace of mind. What you want to implement is what you say to yourself when you see yourself in the mirror.

Have a great weekend everyone ❤️

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Spinach Rice with vegetables in Paprika Sauce 🍛

When Continental calls, one does not say no! This yummiliciouss recipe is a worth try for those of you would love to explore different tastes.

The bright green Spinach Rice enhanced by the Vegetables in Paprika Sauce delighted all my 5 senses of taste, Color, feast, aromas and Satisfaction. Believe me, my digestive juices started running when the garlic hit the oil during the cooking itself!!!

It was excruciating waiting for 30 minutes it took to get this dish ready. But it was well worth the wait when it was set on the table.

For spinach rice Ingredients:

• For blanching Spinach:

1. Spinach 1 big bunch

2. A pinch of salt

• Fresh mint leaves 1 tbsp

• Fresh coriander 1 tbsp

• Green chillies 2 nos.

• Ice cubes 1-2 nos.

• Butter 1 tbsp & oil 1 tsp

• Garlic 1 tbsp

• Red chilli flakes 1 tsp

• Cooked basmati rice (5 cups)

• Salt to taste

• Black pepper powder a pinch

• Lemon juice 1 tsp

For paprika sauce: Ingredients:

• For sautéed veggies:

1. Oil 1 tsp

2. Garlic 1 tbsp (chopped)

3. Red chilli flakes 1 tsp

4. Baby corn 1/3rd cup

5. Carrot 1/3rd cup

6. Zucchini 1/3rd cup

7. Mushroom 1/3rd cup

8. Mixed bell peppers 1/3rd cup

9. Broccoli 1/3rd cup

10. Salt & pepper to taste

• For paprika sauce:

1.2 tbsp butter

2. Refined flour (maida) 2 tbsp

3. Milk 600 ml

4. Paprika powder 1 tbsp (red chilli powder)

5. Salt to taste

6. Black pepper a pinch

7. Nutmeg powder a pinch

Method :

🥬Set water for boiling, add the cleaned and washed spinach leaves and blanch for few seconds, remove and immediately transfer to ice cold water. This process helps in retaining the bright green colour of spinach.

🥬Now, transfer the spinach in grinding jar, along with fresh mint leaves, coriander leaves, green chillies and few ice cubes, grind to a fine puree and keep aside.

🥬Set a wok on medium heat, add butter & oil, garlic and red chilli flakes, cook for 1-2 minutes on medium flame, now add the spinach puree and cook for 4-5 minutes.

🥬 Now add the cooked rice, salt to taste, black pepper powder a pinch and lemon juice, stir and cook for 2-3 minutes, stir gently without breaking the rice grains. Spinach rice is ready, serve hot with hot paprika sauce.

Method :

🍛For sautéed veggies, set a wok on medium heat, add oil, garlic and red chilli flakes, cook for 2-3 minutes.

🍛 Now, add baby corn & carrot and cook for 2-3 minutes on high flame, further add the remaining veggies, salt & pepper to taste, stir and cook for 2-3 minutes, sautéed veggies are ready, keep aside to be added later in the paprika sauce.

🍛 For paprika sauce, set a sauce pan or wok on low heat, add butter and flour, mix and cook for 3-4 minutes, now add milk in 3-4 batches, make sure to whisk well while adding milk to avoid lump formation. Cook the sauce until its thick and creamy.

🍛Now add paprika powder, salt to taste, black pepper powder a pinch and nutmeg powder, mix well and cook for 1-2 minutes, further add the sautéed veggies and cook for 1-2 minutes, now add the paneer and mix gently.

🍛Paprika sauce with sautéed veggies and paneer is ready, serve hot with hot spinach rice.

Oriflame, Smile & Confidence💄

Colors that never get boring, Shades that brighten your life, Shades and textures from Matte to Glossy – Something a woman cannot and should not do without as Shades of colours brighten up one’s life.

Essential to Make-up from nude to bright they help add a smile to your face.

Even though I now work and study from home, looking good is my right, looking good is my way to start a day and looking good is ofcourse my birthright!

Along with adding color, our lipstick today have SPF, lip-protectors, Creamy effect, matte finish, long last, waterproof,and the list goes on and on and on……
There are somethings one should not have to compromise on and I feel a good lipstick is one of those things that fills you with utmost Confidence and Joy.

I Confidence boosters come from the shades of Oriflame. I love their textures and the ability to mix and match shades and create a spectrum of my own.

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The bright light.

“Without dark clouds in our lives, we would never know the joy of sunshine.” ~ Billy Graham

Why do we often take for granted the very things that deserve our gratitude the most? We do this with both people and possessions. The problem is many people do not realize this until the situation has come and passed. We take things for granted on a daily basis, always with the assumption that whenever we need something, it will be there.

Too many times people don’t realize what they have because they are out there looking for something better. The problem is that when they do realize it, they will come crawling back. Everyone falls into the trap that the grass is always greener on the other side. People make mistakes, it’s part of human nature. If you really love this person it may be in both people’s best interest to give him or her another chance. Sometimes space makes people appreciate things they once had. You need to make it clear that you forgive one time, and one time only, and if this is what you truly want.

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I am bursting with self-confidence.

I have a clear understanding of how I am. I am strong, I am beautiful, I am fearless, I am wise, I am a lover and I can laugh. Thus, self-confidence overflows in me.

My weaknesses tell me that I am strong, my flaws tell me I am beautiful, the way I segregate reality from illusion tell me I am fearless, I learn from my mistakes because I am wise, I am a lover and I’m always will be, I may be sad or I may not be, I will always have a smile on my face.

I have a purpose and everyday I fulfill it. I listen to others opinions but I live by my values. I remain true to my believes and I am happy with myself.

Having self-confidence is about loving myself both when I succeed and also when I stumble. I am always proud of myself as long as I know I have done my best.

I understand the difference between my values and my performance because we all have days when we are disappointed by ourselves. However days like those make me stronger because I choose to learn from anything that my not quite the way I wish.

I burst with self-confidence because my inner voice is filled with love. My inner voice is overflowing with words of affirmation. if and when I fail I always boost my self confidence by remembering my strengths and the lessons I have experienced and I learn in the process.

I pursue new interest with passion as I can cover new talents with them myself. I have in overflowing self-confidence fountain which helps me overcome the fear of failure.

Today, I know how to separate my values from my performance. I look Deep inside myself and see the person I am destined to become. Today, I make the choice to move in a positive direction.

I have a clear understanding of how I am. I am strong, I am beautiful, I am fearless, I am wise, I am a lover and I can laugh. Thus, self-confidence overflows in me.

Here are a few self-reflection questions :

  1. How can you separate your values from your performances ?
  2. How do you react to your failures ?
  3. What new talent do you want to pursue ?

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